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From the White House, to the board room, to the privacy of our own bedrooms and virtually everywhere in between, one thing our society is badly in need of is a restoration of integrity.

The New IQ provides a dynamic road tested primer for restoring this disappearing virtue for the sake of our loved ones, our communities, our businesses, our society, and our own personal wellbeing.

The New IQ Integrity Makeover Workbook provides ten modules of illuminating self-assessments and powerful exercises for integrating into your life what you learn in The New IQ.

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Your Redemption Plan Symptoms Checklist

You will find on this page the free Redemption Plan Symptoms quiz I mention in my book, The New IQ: How Integrity Intelligence Serves You, Your Relationships and Our World. Before taking the quiz further below, it might help if you first aquaint yourself with how the term "Redemption Plan" is used in this material.

About Your Survival and Redemption Plans

The single biggest reason we compromise our integrity as adults is something called a Redemption Plan. I am referring here not to religious or spiritual redemption but rather to our ego’s false beliefs about what we must do to prove our worth to ourselves and others as adults.

This need to prove ourselves stems from our childhood. As children, all of us develop coping strategies to survive traumatic life experiences we have that we are not helped to turn into golden gifts rather than perpetual wounds. That set of strategies is called our Survival Plan.
A big part of what our Survival Plan was supposed to do was to get us all the connection, validation or safety we needed and deserved as children. Our Survival Plan gives us the hope we need in order to have sufficient motivation to pursue a better future rather than completely give up as children. Because Survival Plans are only partially effective at doing this, most of us enter adulthood with the profoundly limiting belief that there are prerequisites to deserving to feel lovable, valid, and worthy of the happiness we seek. This causes us as adults, whether consciously or unconsciously, to focus an awful lot of our attention on proving to others and ourselves that we are worthy of experiencing fulfillment and love. This is our Redemption Plan.
Since our Redemption Plan fails to purchase all the love, validation and happiness we seek, it eventually begins to crumbles to crumble. This leads some of us to switch to proving to others and ourselves that we don’t need anything from anyone, including love, validation and/or support. I refer to this in The New IQ as Survival Plan Attachment. What most of us don’t realize, because few of us are taught this, is that the crumbling of our Survival and Redemption Plans in adulthood is meant to mark the beginning of true adult development. The New IQ and its accompanying workbook provide a complete step-by-step road map for successfully undertaking this journey.
The point is that our ego’s Redemption Plan cannot succeed at making us feel fulfilled as adults any more than our Survival Plan did as children… no matter how hard we try. As a result, our Redemption Plan turns into a bottomless pit: no variety or amount of success can ever fill it, regardless of how much energy, willpower and money we throw at it. As I just mentioned, realizing this marks the beginning of true adult development, which has two main elements. The first is outgrowing the coping skills that run our Survival and Redemption Plans. The second is upgrading a key set of skills for thriving called the Seven WisePassions.

In The New IQ: How Integrity Intelligence Serves You, Your Relationships and Our World, you will discover, among many other things, six of the most common types of Redemption Plans, how to determine which types you use, the prices you pay when you are being controlled by your ego’s Redemption Plan, and how to outgrow it.

Your Redemption Plan Symptoms Checklist

The following checklist will show you the extent to which your Redemption Plan has you by the throat and how to recognize more quickly recognize when it is active in you. The strategies in The New IQ and The New IQ Integrity Makeover Workbook will help you free yourself from the nasty clutches of your ego's Redemption Plan so you can live the life of fulfillment that you seek.

Instructions: Select the symptoms you are currently most prone to when you are exhausted or extremely stressed, whether in your personal life, at work, or in your ways of being of service in the world.

When I am not at my best...

I tend to be rather resistant to change
I tend to be more open to change than is good for me
I tend to be too stubborn for my own good
I tend to over-use willpower to deal with situations
I tend to use quick fixes to control symptoms rather than deal with root causes
I tend to be overly responsible
I tend to blame others or situations for my problems or when I don’t make good on a commitment
I tend to feel like a victim of outer circumstances, other people or my own thoughts or emotions
I tend to make excuses when I don’t do what others want me to do or what I say I will do
I tend to be overly dependent on others
I tend to be so self-sufficient that it is hard for me to allow others to help me
I tend to be seen by others as arrogant
I tend to feel entitled to have things be the way I want them to be
I tend to feel like I don’t deserve to have what I most want
I tend to rely too much on spirit to take care of things for me
I am prone to feeling humiliated
I tend to feel overwhelmed by too much input from others
I tend to be overly susceptible to being convinced, manipulated or brainwashed by others
I tend to be self-neglectful
I tend toward being self-indulgent
I tend to obsess about things
I tend toward using anesthesias or addictions to escape or numb my feelings
My home or work surroundings feel unpleasant to me or tend to drain my energy
I tend to isolate and feel more alone than is good for me
I tend to feel over-stimulated
I tend to become rigid
I tend to feel drained by a too-long commute to work
I tend to be around people who sabotage my work, my development or my authenticity
I tend to avoid or ignore my obligations
I tend to tolerate more chaos than is good for me
I tend to feel overwhelmed
I tend to be run by my to-do list
I tend toward being in debt
I tend to feel overwhelmed by my body sensations
I tend to feel overwhelmed or taken over by my emotions
I tend to not notice my internal cues such as my sensation or emotions
I tend to notice my internal cues but I have difficulty discovering what they are trying to tell me
I tend to allow my thoughts to inappropriately over-rule my intuition
My conscience tends to be more shame-based than based in love and spirit
My Inner Critic tends to take charge of me
I tend to disbelieve I am intuitive
I believe I have an intuition but I tend to not notice it
Even if I notice my intuition, I tend not to disbelieve or not trust it
I tend to be more impervious to influence from others than is good for me
I tend toward rightness addiction (being overly-attached to my own preconceptions)
I tend to be gullible – I tend to swallow whole what others tell me without properly discerning what does an doesn’t fit for me
I tend to become overly focused on my wounds and baggage
I tend to deny the baggage I carry
I tend to believe that life is unfair or that people are cruel
I tend to put too much emphasis on being a tough ‘survivor’
I tend to be so self-reliant that I feel more alone than is good for me
I tend to feel as though the best response for me to have is to harden your heart
I tend to feel like I have to teach others a lesson
I tend toward wanting vengeance
I tend to get locked in inner anger or self-righteousness that keeps feeding on and reinforcing itself
I tend to feel like it is my responsibility to save the others or the world
I tend to blame others or situations for my circumstances, feelings, judgments or reactions
I tend to feel like a victim of circumstance of other people
I tend to make excuses
I tend to believe that outer situations or other people must change before I can feel okay inside myself
I tend to engage in premature forgiveness (trying to will myself into forgiveness before my heart has truly reached forgiveness)
I tend to refuse to forgive
I tend to feel more easily defeated or helpless than is good for me
I tend to go through the motions of living like a kind of emotional zombie, feeling out of touch with my aliveness and passion and more like I have joined the living dead
I tend to become cocky about my strengths or to use them to control others
I tend to tone down my strengths or my light more than is good for me or for others
I tend to deny my strengths
I tend to be afraid of my personal power, or reluctant to express it
I tend to feel entitled to have what I want when I want it
I tend to become manipulative
I tend to become overly self-centered (narcissistic)
I tend to become something of a tyrant
I tend to carry a lot of resentment
I tend to be codependent with others, making the connection between us or what they want more important than being authentic or genuine or telling my truth
I tend to steamroll over others in order to make my intentions come true
I tend to fall into believing that the ends justify means
I tend to become overstretched, pursuing too many goals or intentions at one time, setting goals that are too lofty for my next step, or expecting myself to reach my goals faster than is realistic
I tend to sabotage myself from manifesting my intentions
I tend to become ineffective in manifesting my intentions
I have a lot of un-manifested dreams
I tend to be reluctant to or afraid of making commitments
I tend to second-guess my choices, commitments or goals more than is good for me
When I have a different perspective or want from someone else, I tend to get into an “us versus them” mentality
When I have a different perspective or want from someone else, I tend to downplay my perspective or wants too much for my own good
When I have a different perspective or want from someone else, I tend to force my perspective or wants onto the other person, or try to convince them that they should agree with me
I tend to make decisions for others rather than with others
I tend to be manipulative
I tend to lose my sense of self in some relationships, merging into the other person. I try to believe what they believe or want what they want. Or I simply try to downplay or ignore what I believe or what I want
I tend to capitulate (give in) to others more than is good for me, good for the relationship, or good for the project we are doing together
I tend to avoid becoming too close to or to interconnected with others
I tend to distance myself from those closest to me, to the point where it feels like we are living parallel lives rather than intertwined lives
I tend to offer or accept apologies without also developing a plan with the other person for how we will handle similar future situations differently
I tend to get into fights without end – issues seem to keep coming up over and over again without ever getting resolved
I tend to intimidate or coerce others into believing or doing what I want them to believe or do
I tend to compromise with others to the extent where I feel resentful, ripped off or emotionally deadened by the agreements I make
I tend to be too afraid of conflict for my own good
I tend to tolerate emotional deadness in my personal or work relationships
I tend to neglect one or two of my three Core Drives (authenticity/wellbeing, connection, and impact/service) rather than align and coordinate among all three
I tend to feel overstretched when I try to be authentic, feel connected with others and serve Collective Highest Good all at the same time
I tend toward being self-righteous or shaming when trying to help make the world a better place
I tend toward being unethical or corrupt
When trying to do the right thing I tend to fall into the trap of believing that the ends justify means
I tend to lie if that’s what it takes to do what is best for all concerned
In trying to bring about Collective Highest Good I tend to resort intimidation, coercion, horse trading, manipulation or even tyranny
I tend toward crusading or fanaticism when trying to serve Collective Highest Good
I tend to be too tolerant of injustice
I tend to get so incensed about injustice that it interferes with my ability to serve Collective Highest Good as well as I would like
I tend to be more concerned about myself than Collective Highest Good
I tend to impose my will on others when trying to serve Collective Highest Good, or instead of serving Collective Highest Good
I tend to get power hungry when trying to serve Collective Highest Good, or instead of serving Collective Highest Good
I tend to over-reach my capabilities when trying to serve Collective Highest Good
I tend neglect myself when trying to serve Collective Highest Good
I tend to neglect loved ones when trying to serve Collective Highest Good
I tend to overly defer to others about what serves Collective Highest Good
I tend to underestimate the impact I am capable of having on others
I tend to underestimate the impact I am capable of having on helping to make the world a better place
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